April, 15, 2013. For many people around the world that date might not mean much, but here in Boston, it means everything. It’s the day we all discovered again just how strong we really are. I always feel uncomfortable talking about the marathon bombings, not just because it was a tragic event in my city, but mainly because I wasn’t there. My story from that day never felt valid, because I was 3,000 miles away when I experienced it. In moments of crisis, everyone has their stories about where they were when they heard the news. I’ve heard a dozen times the story of my Mom watching the news after JFK was shot. For 9/11, I was in my 3rd grade classroom. I didn’t really know what was going on, but all the teachers seemed nervous. I saw Seniors walking down the halls crying. Kids whose parents worked in New York started being pulled out of school early, and there was palpable panic in the air.
And on April 15, 2013, my story didn’t take place on the finish line, or even in my dorm in Kenmore Square. When I heard about the Marathon Bombings, it was already dark outside, and I was sitting in my bed, in my little room, in my apartment, on Calle Manuel Cortina in Madrid, Spain. Earlier that evening, I had gotten drinks with friends, our usual sangria at Bar Miguel Angel. We had celebrated “Marathon Monday, Madrid Style.” We had toasted to Boston and to the Marathon and to all our friends back home who were drinking and cheering on the marathon from the sidelines. That night, I didn’t know what had happened until Facebook statuses started streaming in, saying “I’m safe.” I stayed up until 3 or 4am, waiting to sleep until I was sure that every person I loved and cared about back in Boston was safe. I desperately refreshed the Boston Globe website, hoping for more updates. I remember waking up the next morning and being unable to go to work or class, because the memory of what had happened the day before had begun to sink in. There was an aching in my gut that I just couldn’t shake. I had to learn how to say “bombing” and “explosion” in Spanish so I could explain what had happened to my host family.
Everyone told me they were so happy I was in Madrid, because that meant I was safe. But every time I thought about that, I felt even more nauseous. Because the last thing I wanted was to be safe. I wanted more than anything to be in Boston, to love and serve and comfort everyone who was hurting there. Because maybe if I could just do something, just help in some small way, I would be able to stop crying and wouldn’t feel so nauseous all the time. But instead I remained paralyzed, unable to make sense of any of it, and unable to move forward. I had never felt so helpless in my entire life. I couldn’t do anything, so I prayed. I prayed for four days straight.
The most poignant moment in that blur of grieving for my city took place when I finally went back to work. I worked at a refugee center during my time in Madrid, and I was taking one of the men who lived there to an eye doctor to get new glasses. He and I were fairly close, and he knew that I went to school in Boston. As we were walking to his appointment, this man, an Egyptian Coptic Christian who had been forced to leave his home and family and move to an entirely new country fearing for his life, looked me in the eye and said, “I am so sorry for what is happening in your home.” And nothing meant more to me in that moment than his simple understanding and sympathy.
Late that Friday night, I stayed up to watch the news stream in as the manhunt for Dzhokhar Tsarnaev ended in Watertown. The moment he was caught, I felt a surge of relief throughout my entire body. The tension melted away, and I started to breathe deeply for the first time all week. I was finally able to sleep well that night, knowing that justice would be served, and Boston would be a little bit stronger.
When I went back to Boston over the summer for the first time, I walked the mile from my dorm in Kenmore Square to the Finish Line. As I stood on that faded blue and yellow paint, I let all the emotions from that crazy week wash over me one more time: the fear, the sorrow, the pain, followed by the joy, the relief, the courage, and most of all the love. I have been in love with this city since the moment I unpacked my bags in August 2011, and on April 15, 2013, the most overwhelming emotion I experienced was love. Boston was the home I chose, and I have never stopped loving it. And I will continue to love it next Monday along with runners from all around the world, during the 118th Boston Marathon.
That love fueled me, so that even during the biggest crisis of my adult life, all the way from another continent, we remained Boston Strong.
❤ Lizzy
Marathon Monday, Madrid Style
April 15, 2013